Tiwa Savage And Teebillz
Many a times i have had to wonder if being a celebrity or a star is truly a blessing or a curse. There is this news making rounds about Tiwa Savage And Teebillz trying to get back together as they were seen going out for counseling. Now, this is absolutely commendable as being divorced should only be an option when couples have tried everything else but failed.
So if you have been living under a rock and don’t know about Tiwa Savage and ex-Hubby Tee Billz break up, then check this professional blogger and a well done vblog by Mr. Akah Nnani
In my opinion, one of the reasons why we have high rates of broken homes, suicides or divorce cases is because Nigerians haven’t yet embarrassed the idea of opening up and paying a professional marriage counselor or a mental evaluator or therapist to help them see ways of get through the tough times. Outside their family members or complaints put out to spiritual leaders with an appeal to be prayed for, they think its ludicrous and preposterous to spill such sensitive love affairs/issues to a total stranger and so they suffer in their misery especially the women.
I don’t know if you have by any chance stumbled on the report written by ThisDaylive where the Ogun state commissioner for health categorically said that over 60 million Nigerians have mental issues. This is so true as everyone is impatient with each other on the road when you take a drive. This is so true in a case where you know you are being showered with love from your partner but instead of receiving it and reciprocating, you think you dont deserve that kind of intensity of emotion coming from this person and therefore, the giver of such love must be pretending or has an ulterior motive and so you have got to play with their emotions in other to break them or see their real intent. You have mental issues if this describes you!
A short story
I will tell you a short story about me. A guy had been chasing me for the past 4years and i was clueless as to the fact that he had interest in me up until when we lost touch and i reconnected with him one fateful day in June, this year.
We got talking and one thing led to another, we started to catch feelings. After one month of him noticing that i was so caught up in his world, this guy as it is with most men, switched and made me do the chasing. I am the kind of woman who will not allow anyone toy with my esteem or pride but for the sake of our friendship, i swallowed my pride and decided to reach out to him regardless.It was hard reaching out because my pride was at stake but i did all the same.
It took me one month more to realize that this guy was a joker and a douchebag when I told him i needed to find closure as to how things had turned out this way even without as much as a serious fight. All i had initially wanted from him was for him to be more open to me about himself but i noticed he wanted more of being physical with me and less of his identity been discovered. And that ticked him off and made him go silent for weeks because i was persistent. I felt every ounce of my dignity seep away but i had supportive friends who talked with me and i got better.
A few days back
A few days back, this lowlife of a man who apparently is still a boy called me acting as though everything was still normal and trying to figure my own life as he was in the dark for the months he was silent with me. Asking stupid question like if i had gotten a job and how life was treating me. In my mind’s eyes, i knew this guy had issues even moreso mental ones that he needed to sort out by himself because i couldn’t for the breath of the world understand how you have a good thing in front of you but you chose not to see it and just when you realized that she is all gone and lost to you and she no longer gives a flying hoot about your existence anymore, you come back to test if she is still sulking over you.
I knew the game he was playing, he likes to feel wanted or needed and i did well to serve him really cold with his on cup of cappuccino but in a very classy way! I know he might stumble on this post as he follows my write-ups.
So there you go!
We have lots of emotionally broken children in the skin of an adult and unless we first deal with our baggage and love ourselves, we will never be able to love the next person or see love because we dont know what love is even if it stares us in the face. Tiwa Savage and Teebillz are doing what most parents should have done before nailing their homes to the coffin and its quite commendable. We can only build a strong and stable society if the individual units can start inculcating the “i love you” phrase at home towards members of their units just like the whites do!
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ww, that being said, what do you think about Tiwa savage and Teebillz making it work?
Have you ever had your parents tell you “I love you”?
If you have ever broken a heart before, why and what were your reasons?
Have you ever felt undeserving of the love shown to you?
Please comment and lets have an easy conversation
